Who doesn’t know this game. Have you ever done something you were not so proud of afterwards? Have you done something like that more than once? I know I did. And I’m sure I’m not the only one. Those imaginary limits we set for ourselves are often crossed over, especially once we don’t need them anymore.
This post will be about our limits. Just how far, in a worst possible way, are we willing to go, if certain conditions are met? Just recently I learnt to never say never, when I realised that some of my actions would be incomprehensible for my younger self. So…what’s our tipping point? Do people have really no limits as to how far they can go with justification of literally anything?
Never say never
I still remember; when I was 15, I often passed by people smoking on the street. And I couldn’t understand it. “I would never ever smoke in my life. What good is it for those people? It’s cancer!” Well, guess what happened a year after. Was it to show off? Was it because I wanted to belong? I don’t know. But there I am, same as those people I so judgementally pushed down to hell some time ago.
It’s funny how we, people, tend to silently judge others just to later on find ourselves in similar situations. Here’s another one: “I would never ever have a romantic relationship with an older person” (meaning 20 years or so).
Pushing your limits and finding what suits you the best- that’s what life is about. But more importantly, one particular part of life- youth. It’s somewhere between 14 and 30 (in theory), when people are the most adventurous and want to try all new things- the sooner the better. But some limits are there for a reason and that’s what we have to learn. Often the hard way.
I think this is noticeable the most with well-known people. Celebrities, if you will. Some of them had their rough and bouncy moments, but are back, willing to show the people around them they learnt where their limits are. And thankfully, never really crossed them for a long time. There is one particular famous actor who comes to mind right away.
On the other hand, there are others, still living, or long gone, who weren’t so lucky. Ozzy Osbourne, Lemmy, that kid from Home Alone (for the world and stars above I can’t remember his name), Britney… who can show us what happens if we play with our limits for far too long.
But let’s be honest; there is also a third group of famous people. People, who learnt to push their boundaries, without pushing their limits. Those role models, who are as rare as a perfect reflection of the midnight moon on an unsettled river surface.