In this lovely autumn-like weather here, in Europe, it’s easy to fall into a melancholic moods. Some people even say that autumn is a season when depression comes to mind easily.
What if self-help doesn’t improve anything?
It’s easy for others to say just snap out of it. Trust me, I’ve been there. Take it from the fellow depression sufferer, the road to feeling better is never automatic. Since when depressed, you feel…Well, you actually feel like being stuck in a gue. It makes everything so hard! From daily routine, to being social. Since self-help in these cases doesn’t really help, here are few tips how to recognise a depression sufferer. Of course, single cases differ, so apply caution and if in doubt, speak to the professional. Also, the symptoms for depression are almost always combined. So don`t rush to the psychiatrist automatically if your teenage girl doesn’t want to speak to you.
At a very first place, you have to know a person very well to diagnose them with depression
- What’s normal for one person, is not ordinary for another. This applies for daily routines, interests, friends and anything else. For instance: Is your son not into clubbing? Then don`t expect him to go out every friday and come back on sunday. First of all, you have to know daily routines of assessed person. Their hobbies. Friends. Only then you might be able to notice something’s off the track.
- Because depression often doesn’t come in big tidal waves. It’s an unseen ninja that got into our lives through that tiny little hole of doubt in our lives. So at the very first, there is always a feeling that something’s off. Not only perceived by closer friends, but also by a person affected. It’s like with the flu; it takes time to develop from the first headache and weakness, if left unnoticed.
- So act only if situation doesn’t improve for some time. Not months or weeks though. You know the person. Did something happen that could trigger the off-set? Do you know the source of troubles? If not, try to find it. There is always one. And if you can’t find any, stay alert anyway. Without destroying the source, there is a high chance depression will come back eventually.
- Try to get into their shoes. Is their behaviour just a mood or a phase? Or is there a reason to be concerned? The part of reason why it’s so hard to notice a depressed person is that depression is not a sudden change. You might even get used to it and think that a person is just a little bit more sad than usual, since it’s been so long they were actually happy.
- Don’t be easily fooled. Depression often has a recess period. Just like a weather. It’s normal for the summer to be a little rainy. Focus on a trend in behaviour, rather than momentary affections. I know the feeling. I watched myself being happy for a few days and then drift away yet again. The worst part is that in most cases you can’t help it. Surely not alone.
So the person is depressed. But they don’t want to talk about it, I don`t know what to do!
- If you think there is still some time to solve it in a friendly atmosphere rather than under the observance of professionals, try. And try again. Because depression is like a shield; you can`t pierce through it at first and it seems unpenetrable. But after some time, it can be worn out.
- Show that you care! Not with words, but with action. Try to involve this person in activities you think they would, under normal circumstances, like. Hobbies. Cooking, long walks, sports, friends…There are many possibilities. Always find a way how to include your person into these activities, at least for a while. In retrospect, I`m so thankful to some of my friends when they tried and tried to talk me into some activities, even if it was just for a while. Because it makes your mind vibrant. It makes you fall out of the routine.
- Choose medicaments only if neccessary and for as short period of time as possible. Pills are not the best answer for everything. Because mind can drift away and once pills wear off, the tiny shell of happiness will shatter.
I sincerely hope this post is motivating and will help you this time of a year. If you know someone who this post can help, don`t wait up and share it! Because in the end, sharing is caring my kawaii friends 🙂
And if you think you suffer from depression, don`t wait and seek help! Or at least somebody to talk to. Maybe your best friend, teacher, mentor, parent. If you don`t have anyone and are too afraid to call a hotline, write me an e-mail, comment, post with my name on facebook and I will get to you, I promise!
Do you have any experience with depression?
Were you depressed? What helped you get out?
Was your friend depressed? What was the turning point for them?